RUOK? Day - How To Ask The Question At Work
What if you noticed some concerning changes in someone you cared about—what would you do?
All too often, we feel too uncomfortable or awkward to ask the important questions or we might feel out of our depth to deal with the answers.
The RUOK? Day campaign addresses these issues by raising awareness of the benefits of having these meaningful conversations and by providing clear guidelines on how to approach them most effectively. RUOK? Day isn’t just about starting the conversation, it’s also about preparing yourself for it and knowing how to respond when the answer is, “No, I’m not okay.”
These simple steps will empower you to approach your friends, family or colleagues who may need someone to lean on:
Plan your approach
Think about when it is the best time for you and for the other person to have a serious conversation. Consider your mindset, whether you need to organise support for yourself, how much time you have, and the best place to sit and talk.
Be mindful of how you say something, not just what you say
Approach someone with an open mind, a non-judgemental stance and a relaxed and calm demeanour. Be genuine and direct.
Avoid going straight into fix-it mode
Don’t give unsolicited advice. Ask them to tell you what would be most helpful, to just listen or to help them solve a problem or to help them link in with supports. If they are not ready to talk, be respectful and let them know you care about them and will check in another time.
Reduce stigma about seeking professional help
Stigma often stops people from seeking appropriate support. If you have had positive interactions with a psychologist or other mental health professional, it can be useful to share your experience. You can also provide encouragement and support by giving them practical assistance to link in e.g. dial the phone number of their GP and sit with them while they make an appointment, or help them search for a psychologist in their area.
Don’t make promises you can’t keep
Never say that your conversations will be completely confidential. If you fear for their safety, you have to act in their best interest. If someone expresses suicidal thoughts or is harming themselves in some way that puts their health or others at risk, you may have to tell someone (like their significant other) or call someone (like Lifeline or 000) for help even if they don’t want you to.
Check out the RUOK? website for more tips and resources and ways you can get involved!